Physical reactions

Well, I finally answered the phone and let them ramble on about thier problems, offering suggestions but no actual monitary help (it would break our  check book).  After I felt emotionally better (that was just temporary), I became physically pained.  I believe that my inability to anti-anxiety myself in a healthy way has caused me to become sick after high anxiety and stressful times.  I do yoga and I walk on the treadmill everyday, but the stress just saps my energy, and in highly stressful times I just can't get up the energy to motivate.  I would love any suggestions to help overcome this setback, as I know doing more yoga and meditation, and less over sleeping, would be a huge benifit in these stressful times. 

I have to say that all of my emotional control and balance has come from my own searching for answers.  My parents never showed me how to deal with my emotions or stress, only gave me the stereotypical advice (you know, "eventually it'll stop").  My parents opinion (my dad really, my mother only had one opinion, my dads) on the idea of self-help was Christian Science (his religion) or "to be and think Republican in all situations".  Needless to say I never went to a therapist till I was 28 and my dad about had a heart attack.  I learned a lot from my therapist, he did suggest (correctly?) that I move away and change my name. LOL  No, actually he suggested that the only way for me to have a life of my own was, and is, to move away and keep my distance from them and their problems.  I wish I could have kept going to see him and learn how to deal with the anxiety's that I have.  I have since moved almost 2 hours away (and still not far enough), and I have since gotten married to a wonderful man, but I'm still not out of reach and they know it.  I really need to learn the art of emotional seperation (that's what my mother-in law calls it), this situation is ruining my love life and my nerves.